Think, think, think …

Don’t you wish some people would just stop and do this??

The Vaccination Discrimination…

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Science has always led the way to save us, not divide us.

I got mine… Did you get yours?

I don’t get it.

I have said this so many times before, but I mean I really don’t understand people’s thinking.

As we have sat through one of the worst periods in our collective history as a WORLD, the divide in this country over vaccinations is mind-boggling.

Conspiracy theories abound and my nephew and I can always go back and forth on the plausibility of any one of them, but when public health and the survival of one’s loved ones is in question, do we really need to keep up an argument as people die?

I love science. In grammar school, as a child, camping and following the Park Rangers and Naturalists all over Emerald Lake State Park in Vermont, whenever there was a salamander to pick-up; I became somewhat of a science geek in high school, service in the Chem Lab (which is funny on many levels as I hated Chemistry); in college, Anatomy & Physiology, Kinesiology and Exercise Science – Professor Carpenter & Professor Acosta and countless others – my love for science culminated in a Bachelor of Science degree and a Master of Science in Physical Education.  I taught Physical Education and Health for two years and General Science, Life Science and Earth Science for three more.

I love science. 

What’s more?

I TRUST science.

I TRUST medicine.

I TRUST educated professionals.  And I don’t care what field they are in.  I have been called a “Jane of all Trades” in my lifetime, but I am smart enough to know when I am out of my league – let the professionals handle the tricky stuff.  I will learn, study, read, inhale may a science base video, book, TEDx talk and more.  But my money is on SCIENCE.

Recently, someone said that the don’t trust Dr. Anthony Fauci – “All he wants to do is be on TV”.

I don’t know about you, but when I’m 80 years old, I would like to look back on the things I have done in my lifetime and career and reflect poetically.  I don’t know that I want to be working full throttle at that point in my life and be targeted and bullied by conspiracy theorists, trust-fund-raised-TV-personalities, and certain political figures, not to mention one very agitated pillow salesman and many, many people in the general population. I still have a couple of years before I hit 80 – I’m hoping that retirement might be a possibility for me.  But at 80, to think that anyone would be looking to be the target of what this man has become is ridiculous.  He is an accomplished, Cornell-educated, award-winning physician with more accomplishments than you can shake a stick at.

We have been through pandemics before – in my lifetime, many that didn’t reach our shores here in America and one that decimated the LGBTQ+ community.  I lost an uncle at a very young age to the AIDS crisis in the 1990’s; I lost the opportunity to meet “in-person” a grandfather I didn’t know I had to COVID, two cousins in Europe, a woman whose child I taught years ago who was always the “one you’d know would be at the game – Mets or Cyclones”.  I now live worrying day to day for members of my family, my friends, my business connections that are all over the globe.  A friend in Brazil, a cousin in Italy, a colleague in the Carolinas…

Makes me think that the vaccine is really a no brainer.

We don’t live in a bubble. 

Hence, we really don’t know if getting the shot led to some people becoming ill, some dying. Too many other factors.

We really don’t know if getting the shot will lead to an issue with reproduction. Too many other factors.

We really don’t know because things have happened too fast.

But we do know basic science, or at least we all should.  It amazes me how many of this country’s population were not paying attention in science or health class – viruses kill, viruses reproduce, and science is ever evolving.  That’s why what the scientists and doctors say changes from time to time.

Perhaps we need a dose of what it meant to parents who watched their children die of “simple things” like polio, the flu, Scarlet Fever, and the like – back when they prayed for a quickly found and effective treatment.  The old “Little House on the Prairie” episode when they bought meat off the back of someone’s wagon, only to have half the community be sickened with natural Anthrax poisoning, with several townsfolk dying.  If it was some devastating diagnosis for which there wasn’t a cure “right now”, wouldn’t we grasp onto the hope if there was one coming down the road a bit?

My hope for the world and everyone in it is that this COVID pandemic subsides, goes away completely would be even nicer.  Worry about your family, worry about your community, worry about those you don’t even know yet. And in the meantime, please don’t be one of the ones that say “Should’ve, could’ve, would’ve” when it is too late. 

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Do We Really Have Change?

Change

 

As a StartingBloc Fellow, I sat in sessions less than one year ago and heard how the racism, marginalization, and outright criminal behavior of some members of our communities who were initially trusted to serve and protect went horribly wrong.

As a person who has an ambiguous look to them, I have been on the receiving end of hearing how “privileged I am as a white woman in this country” and also been asked as I stood in the store I co-owned holding a broom, “Can you tell me if the owner is in?”.  I have had a person of color tell me I was racist because we put the wrong date on a printed ribbon and could not move fast enough for her when we said we would redo all 30 favors.

I have been in a McDonald’s when someone has randomly said that the white people standing there were the cause of the latest attack on a person of color, only to walk out of that store and be stared down by the police sitting in a patrol car outside the place.

When I was in high school, I was told by an NYPD officer that if I ever dared to walk away from one, I would be “shot in the back”.  Just the thing that would leave an impression on a 15-year-old – one who was terrified of everything and just walked where you were not supposed to.

Yet, I took the Entrance Exam for the NYPD ten years after that incident.  I was told by the officer proctoring the test that day that this was not the job for me after he grabbed my hand and read the side of my school ring – “MS?”, he asked.  “What the hell do you want to this job for?”  His question made me want to do it even more, but my life had gone in a different direction by the time I was called.

I am Italian, Spanish, British, and Scottish – adopted and raised in a family of all that mixed.  I have come to learn that my birth family includes Lithuanian, German, Syrian, and Armenian citizenry and a mix of Guatemalan and Honduran as well.  I feel like the United Nations, but people see what they wish to see.

I am frightened for my niece who rides an ambulance each day during these violent clashes.  I worry as much for the other children in my family, some of whom were also adopted and some who were not and are people of color.  I hear news anchors say that they do not know how to have conversations about what is going on in our country with co-workers because they are so afraid to say the wrong thing. I think back to conversations I have had with women who say they had trouble telling their Hispanic families that they were dating a person of color – a person not the same color as they were. I remember one of my first friends in kindergarten who I was friends with pure and simple – I had no idea there was a difference in the color of our skin.

Over the last few months, I have been told that I am overtly political by people who are not of the thinking that I am.  I have been called a “liberal”, a “Democrat” – as if those words were profanity in and of themselves.  The disdain and vitriol those words carry for the people using them, absolutely amazes me.  But when I ask for factual data or statements backed by data, those same people seemingly change the subject or deflect to a different line or phrase because they cannot back their claims up.  While the whole world is on lock-down, I hear some of those same people saying it is a hoax, a scam, and we are all being led like sheep.

The plain and simple truth is this.  George Floyd died. All the medical examiners agreed it was a homicide.  There should have been no waiting – ALL the officers involved should have been fired AND arrested immediately.  If it were you or I perpetrating the same crime on a street in Anywhere, USA, we would all be locked up.  The saddest part is that no one is realizing just how many people each of us knows that could have been the man on that pavement.  Why it may even have been YOU!

Our police departments are simply a microcosm of society – there are countless good cops who do good things, who sacrifice their lives to protect ours.  Just like in society, there are bad cops who do bad things.  The system has to change, training has to change, laws have to change.  But the biggest change must come in MINDSET.  However, when you go against the “accepted”, the “norm”, you are fighting a losing battle unless the change is drastic, pervasive, and equal.

I see posts on social media that have Dr. Martin Luther King pictured, which say “Looted nothing; Burned nothing; Attacked no one. Changed the World”

Has it really changed?

It is fifty plus years from HIS death at the hands of a maniac with a rifle.  We still have that scenario playing out, but the victims now are children in school buildings.  We still have oppressors with no good reason other than THEY CAN, committing the same senseless crimes against unarmed people – people of color.  Data shows more white people are killed by police – according to my detractors – but those statistics do not state whether they are killed when handcuffed over suspicion of passing a counterfeit twenty-dollar bill.  Proportionally, there are more white people in this country so until you give me a more broken-down statistic where everything is equal, I will not accept that as an argument.

I worry about everyone I met in StartingBloc – regardless of color, race, religion, gender identification, sexual orientation, or any other classification needed to make us different.  I worry because this group of people struck me as so young and so determined to change the world.  I pray that they do not get jaded – I pray that they have the energy to continue the work that needs to be done in their communities all around the world.

I hope that each person on this planet would truly take a walk in another person’s shoes.  In another time, another place – with one slight change in how the universe operates, all of this could be very different.  The oppressors could have been oppressed; the privileged could have been without.  Living for yourself gets lonely – living for each other brings focus and meaning into life.

Happy Mother’s Day… from six feet away!!!

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Mother’s Day usually led to a conversation I had with my mom almost every year. The language of adoption. Some famous person who had adopted a child would pass away and the reporter would usually state something like “Her children, John and Mary and her adopted son, Fred” and my mom and I would be unnerved that there would be a differentiation made.

In 1965, a young woman, no more than 19 years old, gave birth to me. I do not know the circumstances surrounding her decision to give me up for adoption but that was to be part of my story. Adoption and acceptance have always been important to me. My parents always told me I was special and I knew from the very beginning that I was adopted.
But that is where it stayed. It was part of my story that differentiated me from friends, classmates and even cousins. A closed adoption made final in 1967, my parents were Mary and Ernie Parmel – my parents. No “adoptive” – I was not referred to as “adopted”. And to the days after my parents both left this earth, I was their daughter.

Laws may change, new information may be garnered, even sealed records can be opened. That doesn’t change the fact that my mom raised me to be the person I am today – as her own. A friend who was also adopted once said to me that we didn’t grow under their heart but in it.

One thing I know for sure, my mom (and dad too!) is up there watching out for me, shaking her head at the crazy things I get myself involved in, wringing her hands with the things I do that she would have told me not to. On Mother’s Day, I realize that she was right 99.9% of the time, she worried about me more than she needed to, and I know that “paper is thicker than blood”, a phrase we laughed at.

And one more thing on this Mother’s Day…
Mostly all the people in my life, over all these years have told me that today we celebrate women who are mothers, who wish to be mothers, women who have lost children, who have chosen not to have children and those who did not have the gift of their own children in their lives. Faces, names, known or unknown, women that have given up a gift of a child, conceived in any circumstance should also be celebrated for their ultimate sacrifice – so that someone may have a better life – the child and the family they are given to. I thank the woman who gave me life – I hope that one day, I can thank her in person.

But I have come across a few people that believe that if you do not have children or if you are not their mother, they shouldn’t wish you a Happy Mother’s Day; those people choosing to walk past someone while acknowledging another just steps ahead or behind them. Just stop and think sometimes if you are guilty of marginalizing someone like that – you don’t know how deep the hurt you cause can go. May those who do that never find themselves in the same position – or maybe it would give them pause for thought. After all, some of the deepest hurts are caused by three little words not being said. It is always three little words, right?
Happy Mother’s Day to everyone!

And I mean EVERYONE!!

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